#90-Finding Yourself After Divorce: Starting Over After 29 Years of Marriage

💬 What happens when you spend so much of your life taking care of everyone else that you forget to ask yourself what YOU want?

In this episode of The Art of BEing Unstoppable, Vicki McDougall sits down with Amey Deanne Stark-Foust to talk about finding yourself after divorce, starting over after 29 years of marriage, rediscovering who you are, setting boundaries, and learning that you are not responsible for making everyone else happy.

After nearly three decades of marriage, Amey found herself facing a completely different life. The pandemic brought loneliness, grief, anger, and a realization that stopped her in her tracks:

She didn't even know what she liked anymore.

What did she want for dinner?

What did she want to do?

Who was she when she wasn't being a wife, mother, or taking care of everyone else?

Her journey became one of self-discovery, healing, courage, and learning to trust herself again.

And sometimes, finding yourself doesn't happen through one huge transformation.

Sometimes it starts with a simple question:

What do I want?

✨ IN THIS EPISODE

• Finding yourself after divorce • Starting over after 29 years of marriage • Rediscovering your identity after divorce • Moving through grief, anger, loneliness, and major life changes • Breaking the cycle of people-pleasing • Learning that you are not responsible for making everyone else happy • Creating healthy boundaries and protecting your time • Facing fears and stepping outside your comfort zone • What parasailing taught Amey about fear and courage • Learning to listen to your own wants, needs, and intuition • Finding yourself again when you've spent years caring for everyone else • The importance of vulnerability and authenticity

🌿 FINDING YOURSELF AFTER DIVORCE

Divorce can feel like you're losing the life you knew.

But what if you're not actually losing yourself?

What if you're finally meeting yourself?

Amey's story is a powerful reminder that starting over doesn't mean starting from nothing.

You bring your experiences. Your strength. Your lessons. Your wisdom.

And all the parts of yourself you've discovered along the way.

One of the biggest lessons from Amey's journey is this:

You are not responsible for making them happy.

You can love people.

You can care about people.

You can support people.

But you don't have to carry everyone else's happiness at the expense of your own.

Because there is a difference between caring about someone and carrying someone.

And sometimes coming home to yourself begins with simply asking:

What do I want?

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🌸 COMING HOME RETREAT

What if instead of constantly taking care of everyone else, you gave yourself permission to pause, reconnect, and simply BE?

The Coming Home Retreat is a community experience for women ready to step away from the noise, reconnect with themselves, build meaningful connections, and remember who they've always been.

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💫 CONNECT WITH AMEY DEANNE STARK-FOUST

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